Alright, so yesterday, I admitted that I sometimes judge other moms but there is one area where I WILL NEVER judge another mom and that area is: losing the baby weight. First, I want to congratulate and commend all the moms who manage to stay within a healthy weight gain during pregnancy, and bounce right back right after pregnancy. But I also want to congratulate all the moms out there whom let their bodies flow through pregnancy naturally, gaining the weight they gain even if its more than necessary and losing the weight they lose even if it takes longer than expected. The common denominator between both stories: respect for the body.
I don’t believe in punishing your body or depriving it. I do believe in listening to it and taking care of it.
Of course, the healthiest thing for your body after pregnancy (and for you and your children!) IS to lose any extra pounds and to get your health and strength back to a comfortable level. Here are my tips on easing back into it:
Don’t rush it. The goal to will fit into your pre-preggo jeans within two weeks after birth is nice, but its also going to set yourself up for disappointment if it doesn’t happen. Try aiming for health/strength related goals first before body image/size ones. For example: I’m going to do ten squats, ten lunges and ten push-offs against the wall each morning and work my way up to 15 of each by the end of the month. Focusing on rebuilding strength and tone first will keep your mind off the size number and instead allow you to appreciate the gradual positive changes your body is making, keeping you motivated.
Write it down. Easier said than done, yes, but I do find writing down what you’re eating makes you more aware of what you’re putting in your mouth. You’ll begin to realize what habits you can lose, when you’re eating mindlessly, and where you need to beef up your habits (are you getting enough iron and calcium?). But in addition to keeping a food journal, also keep an exercise journal – logging in what activities you have done and the times you did them. This will help you determine the best times of day to fit in a quick minute workout or when you feel most motivated to do it, or when the newborn seems to not mind if you take ten minutes to yourself to swing a kettle ball around!
Ask for help or take the help. Don’t be supermom. If grandma comes over and says “take a nap while I watch baby for 30 minutes” or the bff says “go eat something, I’ll change her diaper” – your immediate response is to smile, say thank you and do as prescribed. You’ll need a nap for energy. You’ll need time to feed yourself a healthy meal. Be grateful for moments of help and use them to treat and rejuvenate your body properly.
I know you’ve had that one friend … or family member … or colleague. She used to be dressed to the nines, always polished up, and just on top of it all. Yes? Sound familiar? And then said friend/family member/colleague, gets married, has a baby, becomes a mom and the next time you see her, she’s … different. Different is a nice way for me to say that she looks like she managed to pull on a pair of threadbare yoga pants, throw her hair in a topknot and you’re not 100% positive, but she MAY have brushed her teeth that morning. By the way, her baby is already past the one year mark … um – is she ever gonna “bounce back?”
Adjusting your routine to live life as a new mom is tough – I’m not downplaying it at all. “All babies are different, so don’t worry! You need to find a routine! You need to sleep when the baby sleeps! Let chores slide until you get the hang of it! Breastfeed until they’re four years old!” (please don’t!) There are so many words of wisdom passed around when you have a baby that you try to follow them all … and then you forget the number one golden rule: you can’t take care of anyone else, unless you take care of yourself first.
This week, I’m going to try to NOT BE opinionated on parenting and motherhood and moms who think they just can’t shower during the day or find the time to put on actual jeans (I’m aware of myself to admit that I do judge mom’s who run around saying they can’t do anything because of their children and I know it’s wrong of me). But I am going to impart my thoughts and ideas on how you can still maintain your sense of self through beauty and style, products I love for baby and for mommy, and products I’m dying to get my hands on!
Being a mother IS a great thing … but being you is just as awesome too! So let’s celebrate all the mom’s who parent and take care of their children, but still find time to look A+ … just because our nails are did, doesn’t mean we aren’t as hard-working! :)
We live in this really great time where hair salons will give free bang trims to their current/existing clients. Fist pump! This means that you really have no excuse to perform bathroom butchery on your bangs … ever. But that isn’t the point of this post. Actually, the point of this post is tipping on a wonderfully convenient and much needed free service (bangs can grow too long within two weeks of a fresh cut – could you imagine if you had to pay for EVERY trim – hello excuse for the return of bathroom butchery). Do you or don’t you? YES – you do. Despite the fact that it is free AND that you didn’t need an appointment AND that it took all of two minutes for her to spritz, trim and dry them out, a tip is still expected. You definitely don’t need to hand over a nice green twenty, but a pretty blue five would do. You were still provided a service so tip accordingly!
Here’s a tip for those who love to carry a really small purse or minimal touch up products while attending special events! Instead of carrying your full compact and your powder brush for touch-ups try using a powder puff and only that. The trick is simple, scrape a bit of your pressed powder or shake some loose powder onto a small round powder puff (you can find some at the dollar store!). Press the puff together so the powder settles in and then wrap in a Ziploc. If done correctly, enough product will sit in the puff and when it comes time to do a touch up, all you need to do is whip out your pre-powdered powder puff and press lightly and gently over your shiny areas. The powder will mattify the t-zone and soak up the oilies and you can ditch the puff when you are done. That leaves more room in your tiny purse to collect some phone numbers!
We have started carrying dry brushes at the studio and while many people have heard of the routine, they aren’t quite sure what it is all about. Fair enough! For those of you who are curious, dry brushing is a great way to release the body of toxins, exfoliate the skin, and stimulate blood flow and the production of skin cells. The end result is softer, smoother, and glowing skin. Some even believe that daily dry brushing can improve the appearance of cellulite. The act of dry brushing (or skin brushing to some) is as quick as 3 to 5 minutes before you hope into the shower. All you need is a dry, natural bristle brush and some elbow grease. Here is a video that shows you how it’s done! Try it!